There are always signs to look out for when going a relationship. in Christianity, there are guidelines in the bible on the relationship between unmarried Christians. it is very important to carefully make a choice with the help of the Holy Spirit because your relationship with humans as a christian can also affect your relationship with God either positively or negatively.
1. There is a difference between Attitude and Spirituality.
A Christian can be Spiritual and have bad Attitude, though as Christians we are all supposed to work towards being better. Note that not all tongue speaking Christians have a good attitude. the fact that he or she is in the choir, or an usher, or another department of the church does not guarantee a good attitude. Many church folks actually play church and hide their bad attitude under the umbrella of being churchy. Get to know him/her and don't start putting the blame on the church.Watch out! Though he might be born again, but still have those bad attitude, don't always think that the brethren you meet in your church are angels, they are humans too, Although some try to work on their attitude while some don't.
2. Some Church folks are just Zealous for the things of God
Not all members of your church have a relationship with God, Beware and know that some brethren are just in the choir because they love music and not because they love God. Some see the church as a social gathering where they connect with folks and just show their talents. Some church folks are just active in the church, but they don't have a relationship with God and not willing to. Don't get it twisted, being churchy does not mean being a genuine Christian. Always look out for the fruit of the spirit in anyone before getting into a relationship with them.
3. Some Fox disguise as Sheep
There are many brethren in the church today who are there to just sample and have fun, Make sure your eyes are wide opened, don't get carried away. Get to know their life outside the church, their friends, their influencers, their values, don't just jump into conclusion, the fact that he is in church does not say he is in God. Some are in church to get better while some are there to catch fun.
4. Your Pastor is not GOD, he is just there to guide you
It is essential to go for counselling and involve your pastor for instructions or guidance. However, you need to have a personal conviction, make sure your judgment is not clouded by love, gift and affection, praying and trusting God for direction is the best thing you can do to yourself when it comes to relationships. God is not far, he is always near and ready to speak. Get a go-ahead from God.
5. Not all church brethren have DREAMS
Some church brethren are Vision-Less, they are dangerous for your future, they don't have a dream and you don't have to allow them to ruin yours. Don't ever settle for a spouse that does not have a VISION. It is very dangerous to be in the boat with a man that does not have a destination. A spouse that does not know where he is going will lead you to nowhere. You need to have an idea of your destination to fulfil your dreams. a dreamless man is a man of no sure future.
DON'T EVER GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN/WOMAN YOU CANNOT LIVE WITH,
ONLY CHASE THAT MAN/WOMAN WHOSE HEART CHASES AFTER GOD.
DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS.
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